How can you tell if a woman is gay without asking? She looks and dresses feminene and wears make up. But, she smokes cigarettes and curses like a sailor. She has a decent body, no kids, doesn't talk about any relationships. Has no pictures on her desk or computer.. other than her deceased brother, no past marriages. I think she is a lip stick lesbian who is closeted. Any real way I can find out without asking her.. Afraid she will curse me out.. LOL! Best Answer - Chosen by Asker I cant either most are now days